The first year after leaving the narcissist is an emotional roller coaster. There are extreme ups and downs, and like the ShockWave at Six Flags Over Texas, your entire world feels upside down. You need to buckle up and hang on tightly, but you won’t have to white-knuckle it forever. There’s something about getting through the first year that brings peace, closure, and yes, even joy! There is abundant life on the other side of this!
Because all these emotions and more are coursing through your brain and body, you may also feel memory loss. I call this “scrambled egg brain.” During the first year after leaving the narcissist, I had to write everything down. I mean everything! You’ll forget to pay bills, pay the sitter, walk the dogs, replace batteries in the remote, put gas in the car and pack your child’s lunch.
Please be compassionate towards yourself when it comes to scrambled egg brain. You are going through one of the most challenging times in your life. You are going to overlook and neglect things. I figured if no one died and we only had to sit at Sonic and drink slushes for an hour, we were doing okay!
Also, depending on where and how your parents raised you, you might need to rethink some of the values you learned. I was brought up in the Deep South, and I learned that finding a man was of paramount importance. Men came first, and a career came second. Women who were divorced were referred to in condescending tones as “divorcées.” Children came from “broken” families. My programming was that divorce was a very, very bad thing, and you should avoid it at all costs. It was a selfish thing to do.
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