Have you heard the phrase, “Out of sight, out of mind”? When you’ve had ongoing connections with narcissists (or a narcissistic system), that phrase is probably not accurate. You may…
Continue readingDo you ever seek gratifying experiences? Of course, you do. You prefer to spend time with your favorite people. You naturally enjoy favorite meals, entertainment, outdoor activities, moments of ease,…
Continue readingInitially when you encounter a covert narcissist, you can be impressed by their seeming normalcy or charm. Living behind the veneer of the False Self, they have learned how to…
Continue readingKeeping in mind that narcissism is a pattern on a spectrum, the far end of that spectrum leads to malignant narcissism, a term used for hard-hearted people who don’t care…
Continue readingSadly, narcissists build an entire persona upon one falsehood after another. Hiding behind a False Self, they concoct distortions for the purpose of propping up a narrative of their superiority…
Continue readingDr. C welcomes author and therapist, Darlene Lancer, whose expertise is the exploration of narcissists, codependents, and the problem of shame. She explains how necessary it is to be aware…
Continue readingConsider some of a narcissist’s most egregious tendencies: contempt, easy anger, inability to manage conflict well, lots of criticism, defensiveness, dishonesty, condescension, and much more. Each of these inclinations reveals…
Continue readingNarcissists are threatened by you being distinctly you. This means they predictably use distorted thinking when you declare that you deserve respect, that you should be able to follow your…
Continue readingCan narcissists change? The answer is “yes, but.” They can change, but are they willing to do the work, no matter how unnatural it would feel? That’s the more pertinent…
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