Narcissists can’t and don’t want to change. Below are four reasons why this is so. 1. Narcissists don’t listen or communicate. Most narcissists listen for one reason: to respond with…
Continue readingWhen you are a healthy person relating with another healthy person, the rules of engagement are simple and straightforward: I’ll show you respect just as I know you will in…
Continue readingOne of the most devastating things a narcissist does to their target is to instill a mindset in them of, “It’s always my fault.” Through gaslighting and consistent, derogatory remarks,…
Continue readingHave you ever wondered if a narcissist has a radar for an empath or nice person like you? It sure can feel that way. A friend (who is 34) recently…
Continue readingMany narcissistic abuse survivors approach me and ask, “How long does it take to heal?” They often add, “When will the pain stop?” Unfortunately, there is no easy answer. There…
Continue readingThe snowstorm that ravaged Texas a few weeks ago took us all by surprise. I had no electricity, including heat, for three days, when temperatures plummeted close to zero. Then,…
Continue readingMany survivors of narcissistic relationships describe navigating it like walking on eggshells. Sure, I agree with that description, but after surviving a narcissistic parent then a husband I think it…
Continue readingThe words “should,” “ought to,” “must,” or “need” often send survivors of narcissist abuse into a tailspin. These are terms the narcissist often uses to mandate and control their victims’…
Continue readingThis past weekend, I had the pleasure of visiting a friend in Miami Beach. It was a much-needed trip after enduring a cold, dark winter and navigating aging parents. While…
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