When you are in an ongoing relationship with a narcissistic person, you will eventually experience an inconsistency between their external and internal messages.  While they may appear decent or reasonable,…

Healthy people approach relationships with an emphasis on mutuality.  They want personal exchanges to be beneficial for them, while also recognizing that others desire the same.  This leads to the…

When we focus on the impacts of a trauma bond, we commonly (and rightly) give attention to the one receiving the abuse.  But in order to find fuller healing, we…

There is no debate that a life of rewarding connections is better than that of stark aloneness.  That’s why traits like love, respect, and encouragement are so vital.  And at…

When you are around narcissists, it’s only a matter of time before their frustrating traits emerge.  Led by selfishness and a need for control, they become stubborn, unwilling to receive…

When you conflict with a narcissist, it’s likely you have thought: “I just can’t get through to this person.”  No matter how diplomatic you are, no matter how cleanly you…

Narcissism can be understood as the dark side of the human personality.  It’s identifying traits like raw selfishness, control, manipulation, and so forth add nothing good to relationships.  Obviously, you…

A pet peeve of mine is when someone insists upon applying a “one-size-fits-all” solution to complex problems, when they say “just do it.”  Specifically, when a person reveals great tension…

Two things can be stated with certainty about people stuck inside the narcissistic pattern.  First, they resort quite readily to unhealthy psychological patterns.  Second, they cannot or will not interpret…