Am I Dealing With A Malignant Narcissist?
To determine if the person in question has a bent toward malignant narcissism, we will ask you 20 “yes” or “no” statements.
More About Malignant Narcissism
It is difficult enough trying to make sense of life with a narcissist. They are known by their natural bent toward controlling behaviors, manipulative schemes, low empathy, and entitled attitudes, among other matters. But there is a special distinction within narcissism known as malignant narcissism. It is a more severe, troublesome pattern of engagement that leaves others feeling extremely weary and abused. If you are connected to a malignant narcissist, it is very probable that your confidence and personal stability have been compromised.
Narcissism is a pattern on a spectrum, and malignant narcissism is near the far end of the spectrum. Mixed in with the basic narcissistic traits are tendencies toward aggression, antisocial behaviors, and extreme grandiosity. To the malignant narcissist, truth and morality is whatever that person needs it to be in the moment. They can become hostile to the point of dehumanizing you, and virtually no effort to discuss solutions brings satisfaction.
True to the nature of narcissism, Malignants create their own alternate reality. Their explanation of events is commonly at odds with others who have shared in those same events. In their minds, they must be the final authority and it becomes vitally important that you agree with their version of the truth. The result is that you can lose your autonomy as you constantly wonder how you can possibly coordinate life with them.
Clearly, if you have attachments to a malignant narcissist, changes must be made. But don’t expect that person to be the one to change. You will need to find your inner strength and build upon it, and the first task toward that end is to become keenly aware of what you are up against.