Are You Too Appeasing to the Narcissist?
Narcissists can be so openly dominant that some people cave into a pattern of unhealthy appeasement. To determine your level of appeasement, we will ask you 20 “yes” or “no” statements.
More About Appeasing a Narcissist
Narcissists can be so openly dominant that some people cave into a pattern of unhealthy appeasement. In fact, it can seem like some narcissists have special “radar” for people who are easily controlled. If you are a people pleaser, you can be especially vulnerable to becoming a narcissist’s source of “supply.”
Narcissistic supply refers to the attention and dominance a narcissist craves. Narcissists, being easily self-centered, have a strong sense of entitlement. They want to be admired, they must be in control, and they feel they should be treated as superior. That being the case, they search for partners who will do their bidding.
That is where the people pleaser (or appeaser) will come in. These people usually operate with the thought: “Can’t we all just get along?” People pleasers can be proactive in finding solutions for relationship strains, and they like to feel coordinated with others.
In healthy relationships, this pleasing pattern can lead to great success. But since narcissists lack empathy, and since they want to eliminate others’ freedom to be who they are, pleasers can suffer greatly. Your task is to be aware of your appeasing tendencies so you will not be smothered by the narcissist’s many insensitivities.